Boarding school grief?
I'm gay. I've known for quite a few years, but I haven't told anyone and I'm not sure when I'm going to. I don't act in a way that would make people think I'm gay; only really close people might begin to suspect. Or thats what I think, anyway lol. This year I moved into boarding school at an all boys school in Australia and made a load of great new friends, namely my first roommate, who is now my best friend. We hang out together all the time, constantly in each other's rooms and watching movies together all day. He doesn't know that I'm gay (nobody does), and my problem is that I think I'm in love with him. Or just a realy strong crush sorta thing. No idea. I really think that I should come out to him, but I'm not sure if I should or how he'll take it. I trust him, but I'm not sure if, after only a year of knowing each other, I should tell him. I'm 15, he's 16, and he's definately straight. I hate having to dodge questions and subjects to cover up what I can't change. What do I do?
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 6 Answers
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If you feel that he will be accepting of you then you should tell him, but don't if you think he may turn on you or out you to the whole school or something equally as ghastly. However if you simply can't live without telling him then you should try.
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Ignore that first answerer, and keep this in mind. Whether it is hetrosexual or homosexual, relationships ruin friendships. Although I'm straight, and wouldn't really know how to come out, you should tell your friend you are gay, but don't tell him that you love him. A best friend is never worth losing.
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Only you can feel out this situation. You may have a crush on him or you may feel a connection to him but is it enough to take the risk? This guy may be willing to experiment with you if he did not know that you are gay. You may have a better chance if you just called this an experiment rather than coming out.Be prepared to date a girl that he sets you up with if he dose anything with you. He may want to return the favor if he dose anything with you.Good luck.
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If you've known him for this long, get into a discussion that includes a gay topic. See how he reacts. Let him know you want to share some personal info with because you trust him. Ask him if he is ok keeping your personal business business personal. You can let him know that if it bothers him, you will change rooms. Try to be real positive. Contact the gay center, the gay hot line and pflag.org and ask for some support. Life is short -- be happy.
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awwww <33333 oh, and all boys school eh? ;) aha! well I don't know, he seems like a nice guy, but bring it up like just beat around the bush (..well, not *literally* ^_^) but say something like "my friend just came out to me over the phone" or something, and maybe pretend that it bothers you or something, idk. but see how he reacts. say, "i don't know what to say to him...what would you say?" and if he's all cool with it then he's all cool with you. ^-^ now you also have a crush on him, that's a bit different, get drunk with him sometime (it's easier to say things when drunk and he might take it easier, i'm talking about if you decide to tell him how you feel about him..) good luck!
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An article that may interest you... http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gakuen_Heaven
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Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Monday, August 16, 2010
Atheists, what do you think about what they’re doing in public schools in Australia
Atheists, what do you think about what they’re doing in public schools in Australia?
If the teaching of evolution alone in public schools makes some people mad, then imagine this. http://tvnz.co.nz/world-news/aust-kids-taught-there-no-god-2418681 http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,24797483-421,00.html
Religion & Spirituality - 17 Answers
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nope i don't worry, cuz i am american and i have enough stuff to worry about in my own country.
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Bravo for reality.
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I think I don't vote or pay taxes in Australia.
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Yayyy. =]
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I might go to Australia once I have kids ... far far far away from "abstinence-only" education which spreads STDs all over the place. If you love your kids, go to Australia LOL
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There is no evidence any god exists. Am I supposed to have a problem with this? Even the Christians maintain that there is no evidence. That's why it's called FAITH!
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"...students will soon be able to take religious education classes which teach there is no evidence God exists." Well, that's a true statement. Or do you maybe HAVE any evidence a god exists?
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I'm Christian, and this is fantastic! Not everyone shares my faith, and that's great to see kids getting other views. Besides if anyone has a serious bitch fest about it, the kids don't have to take it. Well Done Australia!
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From the article:"Victorian state primary school students will soon be able to take religious education classes which teach there is no evidence God exists. " There is no evidence. Shouldn't even people who believe in a god be honest about this? We keep being told it doesn't mean no gods exist. Something about faith.
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Sounds fair. If parents don't want their children to attend that section of the class they aren't required to.
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I think it's great. I much rather have a class that teaches ethics and morals can exist without a god versus a class to study the bible(Texas).
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I think it's wonderful.
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Good for them. As the article says, they also have people of different religions come in as well, and any parent can take their children out if they are offended. It's really not that difficult, if the knee-jerk religious types in America would calm down for a minute we could have a decent dialogue, kids included.
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I personally don't feel religion should be any part of school, just like it shouldn't be in with the politics. They aren't forcing the children to attend the classes, so I don't see any real harm in it, but I don't see the need to waste another hour of schooling to teach religion when they get that teaching in church each week, and education could be put to better use in that extra hour.
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Its optional, from what i understand, so i really don't care. But how can you teach that God doesn't exist because there is no proof? That would not be a very large curriculum.
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hahahaha, some people are going to get pissed. but it makes sense, there is no evidence for a god, so i don't see why it shouldn't be taught.
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If the teaching of evolution alone in public schools makes some people mad, then imagine this. http://tvnz.co.nz/world-news/aust-kids-taught-there-no-god-2418681 http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,24797483-421,00.html
Religion & Spirituality - 17 Answers
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nope i don't worry, cuz i am american and i have enough stuff to worry about in my own country.
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Bravo for reality.
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I think I don't vote or pay taxes in Australia.
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Yayyy. =]
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I might go to Australia once I have kids ... far far far away from "abstinence-only" education which spreads STDs all over the place. If you love your kids, go to Australia LOL
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There is no evidence any god exists. Am I supposed to have a problem with this? Even the Christians maintain that there is no evidence. That's why it's called FAITH!
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"...students will soon be able to take religious education classes which teach there is no evidence God exists." Well, that's a true statement. Or do you maybe HAVE any evidence a god exists?
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I'm Christian, and this is fantastic! Not everyone shares my faith, and that's great to see kids getting other views. Besides if anyone has a serious bitch fest about it, the kids don't have to take it. Well Done Australia!
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From the article:"Victorian state primary school students will soon be able to take religious education classes which teach there is no evidence God exists. " There is no evidence. Shouldn't even people who believe in a god be honest about this? We keep being told it doesn't mean no gods exist. Something about faith.
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Sounds fair. If parents don't want their children to attend that section of the class they aren't required to.
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I think it's great. I much rather have a class that teaches ethics and morals can exist without a god versus a class to study the bible(Texas).
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I think it's wonderful.
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Good for them. As the article says, they also have people of different religions come in as well, and any parent can take their children out if they are offended. It's really not that difficult, if the knee-jerk religious types in America would calm down for a minute we could have a decent dialogue, kids included.
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I personally don't feel religion should be any part of school, just like it shouldn't be in with the politics. They aren't forcing the children to attend the classes, so I don't see any real harm in it, but I don't see the need to waste another hour of schooling to teach religion when they get that teaching in church each week, and education could be put to better use in that extra hour.
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Its optional, from what i understand, so i really don't care. But how can you teach that God doesn't exist because there is no proof? That would not be a very large curriculum.
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hahahaha, some people are going to get pissed. but it makes sense, there is no evidence for a god, so i don't see why it shouldn't be taught.
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The headline says that children are taught there is no God. In the article it says children are taught "...there is no evidence God exists." These are two different claims in fact. By the way, the second claim is certainly true. I don't know how the school system in Australia works, if religious instruction is mandatory etc. I live in America and I do not advocate instructing children in public schools as to what their religious beliefs should or should not be. There should be a religious studies class which simply conveys what the core beliefs of the world's religions are. That is simply part of being an educated person.
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Sunday, August 8, 2010
Help!! Private High School Interview?! (Outfits!)
Help!! Private High School Interview?! (Outfits!)?
So i need to figure out what to wear for this interview i have! It's a private high school, in australia, and i want something cute, like, nothing dead. is a ruffled top and a pencil skirt okay? cuz now i kinda have an outfit ready that looks KINDA like this: http://www.bcbg.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3906142&cp=2769162.2840697&view=all&clickid=cat_leftnav_txt&parentPage=family it's not this dress, but that's like, the closest picture i can get to. but anyways, is this too over? because i really wanna get into this school, and btw i think it's a christian school also. oh and i need more recommendations. Thanks!
Primary & Secondary Education - 1 Answers
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It's a fairly nice outfit, but you may want to cover up, just in case it is a Christian school. And you just have to ask your past teachers on recommendations (or people you babysat for).... Otherwise, good luck on getting into the school.
So i need to figure out what to wear for this interview i have! It's a private high school, in australia, and i want something cute, like, nothing dead. is a ruffled top and a pencil skirt okay? cuz now i kinda have an outfit ready that looks KINDA like this: http://www.bcbg.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3906142&cp=2769162.2840697&view=all&clickid=cat_leftnav_txt&parentPage=family it's not this dress, but that's like, the closest picture i can get to. but anyways, is this too over? because i really wanna get into this school, and btw i think it's a christian school also. oh and i need more recommendations. Thanks!
Primary & Secondary Education - 1 Answers
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It's a fairly nice outfit, but you may want to cover up, just in case it is a Christian school. And you just have to ask your past teachers on recommendations (or people you babysat for).... Otherwise, good luck on getting into the school.
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Sunday, August 1, 2010
Come out now or wait till post-high-school? (More details inside)
Come out now or wait till post-high-school? (More details inside)?
Ok, I've known I was gay for awhile now, and last few years I've really come to terms with it myself. There's still the matter of coming out to others though. Anyway... I'm currently in my final year of High School in Australia, with less than half a year left until my HSC (High School Certificate) before I leave and can then get into university. My grades are fine, but lately the issue of coming out has really been playing on my mind and I don't know when I should come out - now or wait until university - due to a variety of reasons: 1) Like I said, the thought is becoming a distraction. I mean, it's a selective school and the environment is fairly supportive, plus I feel like I have some good friends who I'd be able to tell first off, and my family doesn't seem overtly homophobic. It's more the reaction of the general community, acquaintances, etc, that I'm concerned about. That, and I don't want to necessarily lose any friends whom I wouldn't have expected to react negatively. 2) Graduation and the end of school Formal (or Prom I guess) is coming up. Obviously the whole date thing poses a problem. Even if I came out, I doubt I'd be at a stage by then to bring a same-sex date, especially since I don't exactly know many gay people my age anyway. Then there's the option of just going with a girl date who would presumably be a friend, but of course I wouldn't really know how to act in that situation considering my orientation, and I wouldn't want things between me and said friend (whoever I theoretically ended up taking) becoming awkward once I come out. Third option would be to go alone and just hang out with friends and their dates, but... I don't want to be "that guy who just hangs out with everyone else's dates" whilst being alone myself. Hard to explain, but I don't exactly want to be a third wheel on the night. 3) My grades. Like I said earlier, my grades are quite good at the moment. Though the thought is becoming distracting when I should be focusing on other things, however. Plus, I don't want some unforseen reaction from people at school/family affecting my grades, and in turn myself, so close to my final high school exams and getting my UAI for university admission. I just don't want any problems/issues that may or may not arise from coming out affecting my end of schooling and then, ultimately, my future after that in terms of university courses, etc. Sorry for the lengthy question, but ultimately it boils down to - when considering the above concerns - should I come out before or after I graduate? Even if the thought is still playing on my mind until then if I choose not to...
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 4 Answers
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Wait until after high school to officially "come out"--you can tell a few trusted friends now if you want, but don't actually be OUT until after high school. Wait to tell your family once you're attending a university. Regarding prom, do you have any female friends you can really trust? If so, come out to one of them and ask if she'd like to go to prom as friends. If the relationship with her was already platonic, it shouldn't matter if she knows you're gay.
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you will know when the time is right it wont be a thought it will be a feeling until then try telling ur best friend and just remember your family may not seem homophobic but no one wants their child to be gay so it may take them awhile to wrap thier heads around the idea best of luck
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If you can keep it to yourself or only to your family and close friends so much the better. Just come out when there's not more conflicts ahead.
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It just depends on whether you think that you can do what you want when you are out of the closet, if you think it will interfere with school don't do it. If you can get over it and continue on with life then go for it, I would! :)
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Ok, I've known I was gay for awhile now, and last few years I've really come to terms with it myself. There's still the matter of coming out to others though. Anyway... I'm currently in my final year of High School in Australia, with less than half a year left until my HSC (High School Certificate) before I leave and can then get into university. My grades are fine, but lately the issue of coming out has really been playing on my mind and I don't know when I should come out - now or wait until university - due to a variety of reasons: 1) Like I said, the thought is becoming a distraction. I mean, it's a selective school and the environment is fairly supportive, plus I feel like I have some good friends who I'd be able to tell first off, and my family doesn't seem overtly homophobic. It's more the reaction of the general community, acquaintances, etc, that I'm concerned about. That, and I don't want to necessarily lose any friends whom I wouldn't have expected to react negatively. 2) Graduation and the end of school Formal (or Prom I guess) is coming up. Obviously the whole date thing poses a problem. Even if I came out, I doubt I'd be at a stage by then to bring a same-sex date, especially since I don't exactly know many gay people my age anyway. Then there's the option of just going with a girl date who would presumably be a friend, but of course I wouldn't really know how to act in that situation considering my orientation, and I wouldn't want things between me and said friend (whoever I theoretically ended up taking) becoming awkward once I come out. Third option would be to go alone and just hang out with friends and their dates, but... I don't want to be "that guy who just hangs out with everyone else's dates" whilst being alone myself. Hard to explain, but I don't exactly want to be a third wheel on the night. 3) My grades. Like I said earlier, my grades are quite good at the moment. Though the thought is becoming distracting when I should be focusing on other things, however. Plus, I don't want some unforseen reaction from people at school/family affecting my grades, and in turn myself, so close to my final high school exams and getting my UAI for university admission. I just don't want any problems/issues that may or may not arise from coming out affecting my end of schooling and then, ultimately, my future after that in terms of university courses, etc. Sorry for the lengthy question, but ultimately it boils down to - when considering the above concerns - should I come out before or after I graduate? Even if the thought is still playing on my mind until then if I choose not to...
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgendered - 4 Answers
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Wait until after high school to officially "come out"--you can tell a few trusted friends now if you want, but don't actually be OUT until after high school. Wait to tell your family once you're attending a university. Regarding prom, do you have any female friends you can really trust? If so, come out to one of them and ask if she'd like to go to prom as friends. If the relationship with her was already platonic, it shouldn't matter if she knows you're gay.
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you will know when the time is right it wont be a thought it will be a feeling until then try telling ur best friend and just remember your family may not seem homophobic but no one wants their child to be gay so it may take them awhile to wrap thier heads around the idea best of luck
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If you can keep it to yourself or only to your family and close friends so much the better. Just come out when there's not more conflicts ahead.
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It just depends on whether you think that you can do what you want when you are out of the closet, if you think it will interfere with school don't do it. If you can get over it and continue on with life then go for it, I would! :)
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